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Here’s a vicious cycle that we can all relate to…
You work hard and go to bed with a spinning head, full of thoughts and worries about the day that just past, and what’s on the horizon for tomorrow.
This carries on all week until you become really tired, and probably a bit cranky too.
This state of over-tiredness affects the way you communicate with your partner, your friends and your family. Often when we are tired, we are not able to express ourselves the best way possible.
Partly because we are rushing around making sure that we don’t mess things up or finish everything before the day ends, partly because we don’t have the patience towards others.
So instead of sharing your concerns in a healthy way, you end up snapping, or keeping those concerns to yourself as you collapse into bed for yet another unsatisfactory night of sleep.
When you are here, it is totally possible to go to bed feeling lonely, even if you are lying next to somebody. So this is not loneliness in the physical sense of the word.
But it’s that feeling when you don’t think anyone understands what is happening for you.
Does this sound familiar?
Loneliness comes in many forms: being afraid to share your issues with others, closing up when confrontation happens, not being able to open up to others about what really matters to you.
This behavior is very isolating, whether we intend it to be or not. But the good news is that you can change it.
Having a great night’s sleep leads to more energy in the day, which in turn leads to better productivity, better life satisfaction, and more sense of connection to others.
This is why one of the first things I advise everyone is to put themselves and their sleep first.
My clients often struggle with this element of our work. If you are anything like I used to be, and how most of my clients are, then these points will sound familiar:
- You are driven to achieve your goals but not very good at looking after yourself in the process.
- You replace breakfast with a coffee, eating lunch in a rush, and choose a convenient dinner over a healthy one.
- You forget to drink water, or get up from your desk to stretch and take a screen break.
Self-care comes in many forms and can start from the simplest tasks like getting a few glasses of water into your daily routine, to preparing proper meals for yourself.
The trouble is that when we are tired and rushing, our focus becomes on saving time. So often the first time-consuming activities to get the chop are the self-care related ones.
I would like to encourage you to consider the long game. Taking a few minutes here and there to look after yourself actually buys you back more time in the long run.
When you are healthier and happier, you actually get more out of your time. And of course your relationships are better, life is more enjoyable, and you go to bed relaxed and ready for a sound sleep.
In a nutshell, this is about hitting the reset button on your daily habits, rather than hitting the snooze button on your mornings.
So when you are tired, what is the first thing that you skip on doing?
Could you work a little more self-care into your day?
See how your energy and your relationships both improve with just a little self-care, and let me know how you get on!
She immediately put me at ease and gave me lifelong skills to help with my sleep patterns and helped me to overcome my insomnia.
How can I help you to sleep better at night and wake up rested and recharged?
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